are you actually, oh.. negative?

the universe winks at you ;-)
you are!
I’ve got what I call my “O-Negative” theory of relationships.  It can apply to all types of relationships and friendships, but it’s especially about the one-on-ones. The luurve. 😉

The theory applies to certain people.

While I’ve been seeing folks in person this spring for readings at the Festival, it’s been coming up for a lot of dear souls.  And not in an “I have a hammer so everything is a nail” way  – more in an “oh, yes, that’s me, too!” way.

If you’re one, this may come as a relief or a revelation, or both.

Here’s how it goes:

People with the O-negative blood type are universal donors, so they can give to anyone.  And they can only receive back from other O-negatives.  You may already know this part.

Now, take the concept of relating – truly, deeply connecting with another being – and look at it through this lens.  (You can see where this is going.)  In this scenario, you’re the O-negative one, and if it applies to you, you likely knew it – felt it – instantly.

The other O-negatives out there may be further apart and fewer in number, but when there’s a match?  Yes.  It’s just the right one you need.  For them, too.

Others who may not be that particular match –  who may be an A, or B, or AB, or so forth – still have so many wonderful things to share back, and there is always the fulfillment of sharing something we have to give .. in lifting others we are lifted, too.

They get to be off the hook for not having a certain ‘something’ you require.  It really is just what it is.

And you get to be off the hook, too, for wondering why you could know so much and “get” people so well, and know yourself more every day, and still not – or very rarely – be met and seen right where you are, as you are.

You get to know that this elusive conundrum is not (never was) a certain ‘something’ you needed to figure out and get right, and just.. couldn’t.

Pretty cool, huh?

I see you, oh negative one ❤


{special thanks to Sheryl, who helped me articulate this by listening and reflecting back about it.  A lot. 😉  }

on not taking our own advice – why it may be a good sign

{{lessons learned from Reading: wisdom from life as an intuitive reader.  Everyone is my teacher.  third in a series.}}

Sooooo… as it turns out,  dear people-who-hold-space-for-and-share-insights-with-others  (intuitives, healers, coaches, just 20140314-065420.jpgdamn good listeners) ~ here’s what a regular practice of self-inquiry and personal awareness will get us sooner or later:

We’ll really hear the words of wisdom we’re imparting, just as they are being carried off on our voices.  (Or later, as we hear them played back in a recording or spoken aloud by the one who heard them first.)

And we’ll ask:

“That’s really good advice …  So why am I not using it myself?”

It can be a little squirmy, getting called out by our own work that way.

At face value, it’s a valid question.

If asked from a place outside our center, or at a time when we’re not “plugged in” to our highest self,  it can trigger a whole layer of culturally sanctioned, second-guessing guilt, or the concern of ‘being a fraud’ that can plague every conscientious practitioner [every one that I  know, anyway 😉]

“Who am I to point you in the direction of a place I’ve never been, myself?  Or to ask you to try something I have yet to try?”

Look beneath that heavy layer, though, and you’ll discover the golden truth of a more subtle and powerful practice ~ one where we are intentionally  allowing ourselves, as conduits, to deliver insights or hits of intuition that are truly for the one to whom we are giving them. One where it’s not about us in that moment, and our ego and identity are removed from the equation.

I’ve come to know it’s a really good sign when we get out of our way so completely, in the act of being the vessel or conduit of “What wants to be known,”  that we are rather unaware of what’s been said – perhaps not even remembering our words afterward.

It’s a sign that ego and the logical mind have been set aside, and we are a part of that which is All-That-Is, in the Highest Good.

But ~ sometimes there will be a message, or a feeling, that registers, that resonates, with us.   And it is meant for us, too.

Here’s the thing:  that doesn’t always mean it’s meant for us to have or use at the same time we’re sharing or receiving it. 

You know the experience of being given a special-to-you book, or of finding a meaningful talisman or other sacred object, only to put it on a shelf, not to visit again for one or five or twenty years… Until the day comes that it is exactly the right thing at the very right time.  It was only put there when it was to let you know, to plant the seeds, to give you the language..  to be the beginning. 

~~ You’ll recognize it later ~~

That we have the language to speak it  is, in itself, something important to note.

Like that book waiting on the shelf, I am certain that knowing and wisdom come through us,  summoned by and for another, to make their mark on our own deeper selves, too.. to be summoned again when it is our time for the understanding.

We are where we are on our very personal journeys and we simply cannot compare them to someone else’s.  We may be in the midst of ‘losing the way to find the way’, or awaiting a missing piece of our puzzles.  We may be having an experience that might have been missed, had we gotten it all figured out ahead and taken our fab piece of wisdom summoned for another.

That something we are seeking may come in useful to ourselves somewhere down the road, maybe a day, a week, or many years is not for us determine now.

Sometimes all that’s needed now is for us to be the Star. 

Trusting that as we shine the light that may guide – we are being guided, also.

Always.  â¤ï¸

our own way: getting out of it

what wants to be known - will be shown to you on the path you're already on{{lessons learned from Reading: wisdom from life as an intuitive reader.  Everyone is my teacher.  second in a series.}}

~~ This post was first published July 2012 with the title “Your Own Way: How to Get Out of It” ~  bringin’ it back here because wisdom from Mom is timeless!~~



Back when I was a green-newbie at the whole “doing intuitive work for other people” thing, [*cough* twentyoddsomethingyears ago] my mother told me something I now know would be one of the most useful instructions I would ever receive in my life:

“… just remember to get out of – stay out of – your own way.”

Instinctively, I got it:

I had already had the felt experience of being compelled to say certain things whenever I was working with someone, when I’d known from a place of calm what wanted to be said (though often it made little sense to me, personally!) When I followed that “compelled to say” feeling, it was always right on the mark. Made perfect sense to them. Bingo!


Intellectually, though, I’d mess it up:

At times I’d feel “compelled to say” something, then hesitate a beat too long – and those logical left-brain know-it-alls (dear things!) would rush in to edit, to make it “sound better.” And.. it would go flat, and the simple and patient bit of truth that was finding its way to flow in would, instead, flow on by. (“bye-bye!”)

To be sure, I had a perfect classroom of sorts. Nothing like immediate feedback from another person to show me – over and over again- that the calm/knowing feeling that accompanied some odd-sounding ideas was the wanted feeling. The helpful, useful, right feeling. Delicioso.

And that feedback showed me, too, that the impulse to override or think I “knew better” from a place of intellect was, while not necessarily being a wrong feeling, tinged with urgency and reactiveness and not even a bit delicious.

As I learned to notice these two distinct states – calm/knowing vs. reactive impulse – as they occurred, I realized I could choose which way to go each time. Toward “delicious,” of course!

Making the choice to follow calm/knowing is ~ us, staying out of our own way.


{{upcoming topics: why it can be a good sign when we don’t take our own advice (!), and getting feedback when you’re the only one you have to ‘practice on’}}