It’s a common thing to wonder, upon hearing good words coming out of our mouths (or listening to them afterward, played back to us):
“That’s really good advice … So why am I not using it myself?”
This question is so common that there’s a often a whole layer of culturally-embedded self-questioning guilt and concerns of ‘being a fraud’ that can come right along with it. Who am I to point you in the direction of a place I’ve never been, myself? Or to ask you to try something I have yet to try?
This is not about advice that’s ground- level common sense (and definitely not about a hypocritical ‘do is I say not as I do’ attitude!)
It’s more subtle, about allowing ourselves, as conduits, to deliver insights or hits of intuition that are truly for the one to whom we are giving them. It’s not about us in that moment, and our ego and identity are removed from the equation.
I believe it’s a really good sign when we can get out of our way so completely, in the act of being the vessel or conduit of “What wants to be known,” that we are rather unaware of what’s been said – perhaps not even remembering our words afterward. It’s a sign that ego and the logical mind have been set aside.
But sometimes there will be a message, or a feeling, that registers ~ resonates ~ with us .. meant for us, too.
Here’s the thing: that doesn’t always mean it’s meant for us to have or use at the same time we’re sharing or receiving it.
I know you’ve had the experience of being given a special-to-you book, or of finding a meaningful talisman or other sacred object, only to put it on a shelf, not to visit again for 10 or 15 or 20 years… Until the day comes that it is exactly the right thing at the very right time. It was only put there when it was to let you know, to plant the seeds, to give you the language.. to be the beginning.
You’ll recognize it later.
That we have the language to speak it is, in itself, something important to note.
Like that book waiting on the shelf, I am certain that knowing and wisdom come to us and through us, summoned by and for another, to make their mark on our own deeper selves, too.. to be summoned again when it is our time for the understanding. We are where we are on our very personal journeys and we simply cannot compare them to someone else’s. We may be in the midst of ‘losing the way to find the way’, or awaiting a missing piece of our puzzles. We may be having an experience that, had we gotten it all figured out ahead and taken our fab piece of wisdom summoned for another, might have been missed.
That something we are seeking may come in useful to ourselves somewhere down the road, maybe a day, a week, or many years is not for us determine right now.
Sometimes all that’s needed right now is for us to be the Star.
Shine for the love of shining a light.