Funny how, when your vision clears and you start moving in the direction of your life, necessary and über-helpful side trips appear and become logical Next Steps.
In that spirit, jujuhelpdesk is over in the metaphorical next room, busy doing the work that comes before the work of removing the wallpaper…
You can check it out here:
the eleven minute project. finding yourself. eleven minutes. each day.
If the jujuhelpdesk blog is the philosophical, contemplative big-picture view, the eleven minute project is her “right here – right now” sister blog where we take small actions and see big effects on our energy and our lives.
Join us, and do stay tuned.. we are getting that ugly wallpaper down, a piece at a time!
Has it been a while since you’ve loved what you’ve done with the place?
Consider this photo, if you will. Allow me to mention how accomplished and capable these individuals are: two physicists, and a famous actress! At an honors ceremony, at the Smithsonian!
But the first thing I noticed (and, I’m betting, the first thing you saw, too) was not the intended subject of the picture.
It was that wallpaper.
Eye-jarring and painful to look at. Distracting. And these fine people seem not to even notice it’s there.
Have you stopped seeing the ugly wallpaper on the walls in your life?
Have you become numb to something that just no longer works for you? Are there grungy, outdated spots in the house of your Self that you just don’t notice anymore?
When you chose that pattern it was a better idea – clean, fresh, new. In fashion. Perhaps when you started doing things “a certain way,” or relating to people, or yourself, in that particular setting, it made sense. It was right for who you were, at that time.
Wallpaper’s hard to take down once it’s up, though. When our lives or tastes or needs change, that stuff is still hanging there, getting dingy and peeling off. Getting less-than-fresh. It may seem easy to just paper over it, or paint it. Easy, but definitely not a good idea in the long run.
So, we just stop seeing the ugly wallpaper altogether.
Occasionally it’ll give us a bit of a twinge and we even consider doing some of the heavy work that’s gonna be necessary to have a calm, clear and inviting space again. A space that we feel good about sharing with others.
But we’re not ready for the heavy work, so we decide to live exist with it and say “it’s not that bad.” We stop living in that room. We stop letting others into that room.
Because we go into others’ spaces and see their ugly wallpaper, quite clearly: “holy velvet-flocked poke-in-the-eye, what were you thinking?!?” (hey, I was a kid in the 70’s – and I Have Seen It.) We know, instinctively, that if we are so distracted by the ugly stuff that we can’t see the lovely people, then… our ugly stuff is probably keeping other people from seeing the lovely us, too.
Are you trying harder and harder to get someone to see your loveliness – and can’t understand why they don’t?
Is it time to think about stripping off some wallpaper?
That wasn’t easy, I know: my own history of “don’t go in there!!” wallpapers would’ve filled a sample book. Saying “yes” – admitting that you really do see that Something-Ugly-Right-There-Hangs – means acknowledging that there will be heavy work to come and maybe a bit of a mess during the remodeling.
Saying “yes” also does this wonderful and unexpected thing: it draws people’s eyes away from the walls. And back to lovely You.
They know that you know, and that allows you a little space to breathe. And to – gently, at your right pace – consider what comes next.
[next in this series: Should it Stay or Should It Go, Now?]